You think that you are a different parent, right? Despite the fact that parents are actually different, there exist several commonalities between the different parenting styles. As a parent, it is necessary to know where you fit in the continuum. The most interesting aspect of being a doting mother or a father is that you will be completely unique in raising your child. At the same time, there are sufficient similarities that researchers and experts have tried categorizing parents into some common styles. Each style is known to take a completely different approach towards raising children.
Experts have come up with four styles of parenting and they are as follows:
This is one style that demands blind obedience. Parents with this style use punishment and stern discipline for controlling the behavior of their ward. Such parents tend to be unresponsive to the requirements of their children. They are in no ways nurturing. Kids of parents with authoritarian style have unhappy dispositions; appear insecure; are completely dependent; exhibit behavioral issues; have low self-esteem; show low academic performance and have very poor social skills. They are also prone to different mental problems.
Just like the authoritarian parents, the ones practising authoritative style of raising children to come up with guidelines and rules for kids to follow. Nevertheless, this type of parenting tends to be highly democratic. Such parents are generally responsive to the requirements of their children. They always listen to the questions asked by their kids. However, such parents also have great expectations from their child.
On the other hand, they provide feedback, adequate support and warmth, unlike the authoritarian parents. Such parents are more forgiving and nurturing when their children are not able to meet their expectations. It is the blend of support and expectations that help the wards to develop skills like self-control, self-regulation and independence.
Do you set guidelines but hardly ever enforce them? Are you of the view that your kid will learn in the best way with no interference at all? Don’t you give consequences frequently? Do these statements apply to you? If they do, then you are a permissive parent. Such parents are compassionate. Permissive parents do not interfere a lot with the doings of their children and speak only in serious matters. They are forgiving while not sticking to consequences that they sometimes use. Such parents might offer many privileges. They generally act more like friends than parents and enter into all kinds of conversations with their children. They refrain from putting a lot of stress on discouraging bad behavior and poor choices. Kids of such parents struggle academically.
This is one of the worst parenting styles where parents give huge freedom to their children while staying completely out of their lives. Individuals with this style are generally not interested in raising their children properly. They are not sure about what they really need to do. There is limited communication and little nurturing.
There are very few people who neatly fit into any one parenting style. Most commonly, people raise their children by making use of a combination of varied styles. The four styles should be considered a spectrum instead of being taken distinctly.